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Reasons to Oppose the Institution of Marriage

by Neither Gay nor Straight
The recent announcement by President Obama in support of gay marriage leaves many questions unanswered. Why do we need to get permission from a religious authority figure to be with the one(s) we love and care about? Isn't monogamy really for the birds?


Whatever happened to the time when being queer was an automatic challenge to the disgusting, oppressive, patriarchal institution of holy matrimony? Now, it seems that queers are so desperate to get their taste of straight privilege that they'll camp out in the rain with the hopes that the state will finally sanction their carnal coupling.

We are now faced with the spectacle of thousands of gay men and lesbians rabid with longing for any shred of acceptance from a violent, hypocritical establishment that really wants us dead. Don't forget-marriage is the central institution of that misogynist, racist system of domination and oppression known as heterosexuality. Don't get us wrong-we support everyone's right to fuck whomever they want-we're just not in favor of supporting the imperialist, bloodthirsty status quo.

Local, national and international-conservative and liberal-corporate and grass-roots media have all swarmed around City Hall as if Gavin Newsom is the vanguard leader of gay civil rights. Gavin Newsom came to power by aggressively pandering to the privileged gay vote with a message criminalizing poor people in a city wracked by years of greedy hyper-development. Now, he's giving back to the gays who got him elected. These are the same sellouts who have for years promoted gay marriage as the penultimate achievement on the road to "equality," yet they are now willing to bestow full credit upon Gavin Newsom for their own misguided work.

Newsom is using gay marriage as a wedge issue in order to get national press, and further his megalomaniacal quest for national power. What is depressing is that gay people are so blinded by their desperation for "rights" that they'll promote a cynical, closet-fascist as the messiah.

Marriage is Murder:

on the discursive limits of matrimony

So, what is wrong with gay marriage?

In order to answer that question we must first understand what this thing called marriage is. Marriage is essentially a financial and legal contract that allocates the movement of property, power and privilege from one person to another. Historically it has been a way of consolidating family power amongst and between men, through women. In more recent times marriage in the United States has functioned to solidify the American middle class. Marriage does this through concentrating wealth and power through family lines and inheritance (both in terms of money and power). Because of marriage's ability to discipline class structures it is now, and always has been a primary structure of a capitalist economy. In reality most people marry within their own socioeconomic class. Marriage, earlier through miscegenation laws, and currently through racist "values" also contains wealth through racist ideologies of matrimony. Because of these realities there has been a long history of critique of the institution of marriage launched by feminists of color, white feminists, and queer people among others.

What about gay marriage? Isn't gay marriage going to change all of this?

NO. The current push towards gay marriage is, in fact, not going to subvert the systems of domination we all live through. Ironically, the gay marriage movement is standing on these same legacies of brutality for their slice of the wedding cake. Take for example the "Freedom to Marry" stickers created by the freedom to marry organization. Not only are these stickers falsely equating the intervention of the State into ones life (marriage) with "freedom" (when was the last time the State helped you to become more "free"?) they are trying to work this idea through horrifying star-spangled stickers. Instead of critiquing the ways US imperialism has rendered most transgender people, queer people, people or color etc. as expendable through its countless wars here and abroad, the Freedom To Marry stickers simply disguise these histories and reproduce this red-white-and-blue national theme for every married gay and guilt filled liberal to wear with PRIDE.

If straight people can marry, why should gay people not have the same privilege?

What we are calling for is an abolishment of State sanctioned coupling in either the hetero or homo incarnation. We are against any institution that perpetuates the further exploitation of some people for the benefit of others. Why do the fundamental necessities marriage may provide for some (like healthcare) have to be wedded to the State sanctioned ritual of terror known as marriage?

Won`t gay marriage help couples stay together where one person is not a US citizen?

The way immigration is being used by the gay marriage movement is not only un-thought-out but also relies on racist notions of the "white man saving his brown lover". Although it is true that because of the US policies on immigration some lesbian and gay couples may be split, gay marriage does not at all question these systems that allow some people into the country( white) while excluding others (people of color). Where are the gay marriage "activists" when the INS is actively raiding and deporting whole families ?(such as it is currently doing just blocks away from the Castro in San Francisco's Mission District). Also missing from the picture of immigration that gay marriage advocates are painting is the reality that there are queer couples in the US where neither person is a US citizen. How will gay marriage help them stay in the US if that is what they want to do? Gay marriage will not challenge "citizenship" but simply place some bodies within its grasp while holding others out.

I agree with your argument, but isn't gay marriage a step in the right direction?

This liberal model of "progression" is one of the primary ways many of us are ideologically trapped into a reformist way of thinking. To understand how gay marriage, like voting, will never lead to liberation we can look to the histories of many "social justice movements" that only address oppressions on a level of the symptomatic. Gay marriage and voting are symbolic gestures that reinforce structures while claiming to reconfigure them. This scheme will undoubtedly become apparent with "marriage equality" advocates. As they have positioned gay marriage as the last great civil rights battle, will they continue to fight after the Honeymoon?

Won't gay marriage help get health care to more people?

It may help some people get healthcare but for the vast majority of Americans with NO healthcare it will do nothing. And within the rhetoric of the gay marriage movement working towards healthcare for all (people and animals) is nowhere to be found. This argument also relies on the false assumption that one person would already have healthcare.

So if you are against gay marriage then you are allying with the Christian Right and the GOP!

NO. This is amongst the most troubling aspect of this current epidemic of gay marriage. The way the marriage movement is framing any critique of their precious institution is either you are one of us (gay married) or you are one of them (homophobe). This helps to silence the much needed debate and public discourse around such issues. It seems as if everyone has been shamed into submission and subsequent silence by the marriage movement. Even in allegedly "progressive" circles any mention of the implicit links between marriage, misogyny, and racism in the U.S. gets shutdown by a "gay married". Ironically, if you look at the rhetoric of the freedom to marry movement and the Republican Party their similarities are frighteningly apparent. In their ideal world we would all be monogamously coupled, instead of rethinking the practice of "coupling". They want us working our jobs not working towards collective and self-determination, remembering anniversaries not the murder of trans-people, buying wedding rings not smashing capitalism. The vision of the future the republicans and the gay marriage movement has offered will render most of us already in the margins of the picture (trans-people, sex workers, queers of color, HIV positive people, non-monogamous people etc) as the new enemy of the régime of married normalcy they hope to usher in.

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by Vote Peace & Freedom or Green
About a week before Obama's feeble anouncement that he supports gay marriage, but the states have a right to ban gay marriage, he had his vice president Biden and secretary of education Duncan announce that they are for gay marriage, to test the political waters, while he claimed his position was evolving. The day before Obama was to appear at a Hollywood fundraiser for his weak campaign that has nothing to offer anyone except the billionaires, Obama feebly claimed to support gay marriage, but he is going to continue to let the states ban gay marriage, an obvious civil rights violation.

This announcement has in fact caused Obama to lose some points in the polls, dropping from 47% to 45% and Romney has 49% support among likely voters. This is 6 months before election day, with a threatened October surprise of the US/Israel attacking Iran to make Obama look like a war hero. This is the horror of the twin capitalist parties of war and fascism which only exist to maximize the profits of the capitalist class. The Democratic Party, paid for by the same capitalist corporations as the Republican Party, only exists to make sure we never vote Red (socialist) or Green, so they mouth a few decent phrases at election time, like pretending to support gay marriage, but once elected, they carry out the same capitalist agenda as the Republicans.

In fact, as this whole publicity stunt took place, the House of Representatives passed an amendment to the Commerce-Justice-Science Appropriations bill to prohibit the Administration from using any federal funds to undermine or bring suit against the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) or state constitutional amendments protecting traditional marriage. That means Democrats joined Republicans in opposing gay marriage and supporting Democrat Pres Clinton's 1996 anti-gay law, the Defense of Marriage Act.

Marriage is simply a property arrangement that benefits people with property. Since it is a civil right, it must be for everyone, but the workingclass, the 80% of us who sell our labor for less than $77,000 a year, have nothing to gain from marriage, whether we are heterosexual or homosexual.

In a socialist society where the profit system and private property do not exist, and where all needs such as healthcare are free, paid for by the state treasury, marriage is just a formality as there are no benefits connected to marriage and there is no property to divide, should the marriage fail.

The presidential campaign in a large country like the US is a referendum on the economy, and a declining economy is a good way to get rid of incumbents. Since most of the workingclass never votes in any election mostly because they cannot understand the ballot as they do not have much education, but also because those who can do not see choices that represent them, we are left with the property owners who make over $100,000 a year as the most likely voters. This is a reactionary electorate whose money is derived from the private profit system, thus a very pro-war and anti-civil rights voting base.

Let us hope everyone is finally now cured of the vicious lie that color instead of class is the criteria for voting for someone. No millionaire can represent the workingclass, and that means Obama never can represent the workingclass of all colors. If you want an end to poverty, war and fascism, if you want socialized medicine and the civil right to marry for everyone, if you want marriage disconnected from all social benefits and want all social benefits paid for with our tax dollars, if you want the death penalty and the military abolished, and much more, you must vote Peace & Freedom, a socialist party on the California ballot, or Green, two parties that need you right now to stay on the ballot.

HOWEVER, PLEASE VOTE YES ON 29 AS THE HIGHER THE COST OF TOBACCO, THE LESS LIKELY YOUNG PEOPLE WILL SMOKE, THEREBY SAVING LIVES. Peace & Freedom opposes sales taxes in general, which is fine, but when it comes to taxes for luxury items like tobacco and alcohol, please vote for them. WE ALL LOVE THE CLEANER AIR WE HAVE SINCE THE ANTI-SMOKING LAWS CAME INTO EFFECT IN 1986, BANNING SMOKING IN OFFICES. That's right, we used to have smoke-filled offices causing choking by the rest of us. There is one kind of leukemia that is caused directly by tobacco smoking. Here is the photo contrast of the healthy non-smoker lungs and the very sick smoker's lungs:

These pictures are due to appear on cigarette packages this year in September, the sooner, the better. See

Please also vote No on 28 as the term limits laws are fine the way they are, and should be supported.

In San Francisco, please vote Yes on B to save the Coit Tower murals. Prop A is not good, and neither is the status quo. The garbage collection should be by the city, not any private profit company.

1. Peace & Freedom Party

2. Green Party (They support Prop 29).
by cando
someone said we're f---ing ourselves off the planet. best way to go?huh. overepopulation. marriage is an extension of schoolyard hierarchy of class race etc. just ask a mix race person about racial terrorism inherent in your country.
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