There was one woman that, as she sat on the stage displaying what vaguely resembled a face, told the story of how her husband -- who suspected infidelity -- threw acid on her face as to say, if I cant have you, no one will.

Later there was another story on Oprah, of a woman whose estranged husband set her on fire at her workplace. Again, this woman had once been beautiful in places where there now lies bare pink skin, exposed from third-degree burns. Yet again, a very specific fear was ingrained in me, that with love also there was the possibility of hate, hate that would inspire someone set me on fire or throw acid on my face.

How safe is it for me, or any woman, to assume that they are safe from these fatal attractions, and estranged lovers?

One of the biggest stories in the news right now is the tragedy that has struck singer/actress Jennifer Hudsons family. Last Friday, Hudsons mother and brother were found slain in their Chicago home where her 7-year-old nephew also went missing. Many speculate that Hudsons brother in-law, her sisters estranged husband, is involved in what is now a triple homicide as the body of the young boy was found the following Monday with several shots including one in the back of the head.

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