You're not alone in the feeling that you're alienated by those that should had been your allies.
It is bull shit in wanting acceptance and fighting for the under dogs of society if you do not allow them to be part of the revolution and allow them to exist on the same reality as you. As a bisexual I am not only excluded from most of the homosexual secne but also the heterosexual one as well. I am seen as dirty, unclean, evil, and poser for how I was born. No one chooses to be bisexual or hetrosexual or homosexual or transsexual(I am assuming forgive me I do not know any transsexuals that i know of so forgive my ignorance on the subject.)...a minorty group that is hated and is discriminated against by society at large just for loving someone in an "unacceptible manner." and even if they did (for we all have the right to choose..) why should that matter who they love and what they wear? I mean whats the big deal with a "guy" wearing "girl" cloths anyways? it's just cloth right? Or a girl wearing some tighty whities?
I cannot say this on behalf of my own fellow Anarchist..cus I dunno how they feel about it but I know what I think of all this and that's I am sorry that you were treated like shit by others and I am saddend that many of those that have choosen to take up the Anarchist tittle/movement have yet to t fully live their ideology of acceptance freedom and equality..