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DESCRIPTION:We are some of the many people who have witnessed the intensity of 
 discussions regarding the "Go Native" party planned for this Saturday. As 
 one of many who sees the pain being experienced on every side of this 
 issue, I would like to create a SAFE SPACE for a  dialogue that is honest, 
 respectful, and gives each of us the opportunity to listen and be heard. If 
 you want to participate, everyone is welcome. Please see the principles of 
 safe space below. I am hoping to co-facilitate this dialogue with another 
 neutral thrid party facilitator. Thank you for your time, your honesty, and 
 for being open.\n\nI feel that an open and safe dialogue is very important 
 and also a beautiful opportunity for each of us to reflect on the 
 complexities of privilege, oppression, and seeking to create a better 
 world. I see these as part of an ever-changing matrix of unique experiences 
 that collectively manifest in intersections such as what we are currently 
 experiencing. It is with love and respect for all people that I come 
 forward with the offer of this safe space. I ask that you review and commit 
 to the below listed principles of safe space so that we may all be totally 
 honest, be deeply heard, and be part of a healing that can only begin with 
 acknowledgement and deep respect.\n\nMay our best intentions become a 
 common ground of understand and support.\n\nI look forward to sitting on 
 the Earth in the sunlight with you tomorrow.\n\nMuchlove,\n\nHillary 
 Violet\nAmazonHilly@gmail.com\n\n\n    I've shared a document with you 
 called "SAFE SPACE":\n    
 http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dg2vjpgm_13dkmq3k&invite=1428494372\n\n    
 for your use, and for you to pass on; the 'copyright' license is a CC one, 
 and basically means, pass it on, and change it, but always give credit 
 where credit is due, and NO PROFIT can derive from it's use :)\n\n    SAFE 
 SPACE\n\n    a tool for allowing deep and consensual dialogue\n\n\n    
 “In order for any discussion to be productive, you must create an open 
 and relaxed atmosphere.”\n\n    -Anti-Oppression discussion 
 guidelines\n\n\n    You can use this tool creatively, adapting the 
 intensity of the 4 basic principles to different situations, depending on 
 the level of risk being taken in each setting. Some components of these 
 tools may be inappropriate for some settings, and invaluable in others. The 
 more personal risk involved, the more carefully you want to frame the space 
 at the outset, because a secure anchor is the only thing that will enable a 
 process to fly to the heights of its potential.\n\n\n    A few settings 
 I’ve used this tool in are: board meeting, activist/organizational 
 meetings, co-facilitators/teachers meeting, co-op/group house meeting, 
 personal relationship talks, and discussions with persons of 
 authority.\n\n\n    The 4 Principles of a SAFE SPACE\n\n    Democratize the 
 Space\n\n    confidentiality – share stories and experiences, not names 
 and gossip\n    step-up/step-down – give space before you take space, and 
 challenge yourself to step out of your pattern\n\n    value and encourage 
 risk taking, while maintaining everyone’s right to pass\n\n    challenge 
 the idea or the practice, not the person\n    everyone has equal worth in 
 this discussion, and all knowledges and opinions are equally valid\n\n\n    
 Check Your Assumptions\n\n    no judgments or disclaimers (including 
 self-judgments)\n\n    maintain gender neutrality in your language, and 
 inquire about preferred pronouns\n\n    treat everyone as an individual and 
 not a representative of any specific group\n\n    personalize your 
 knowledge, don’t project it (i.e. use I statements)\n\n    believe in our 
 common best intentions\n\n\n    The Right to be Human\n\n    we all have 
 the right to be human (i.e. inconsistent, emotional, triggered, etc. )\n\n  
   avoid blaming people for the misinformation taught to them\n\n    
 acknowledge emotions\n\n    practice forgiveness\n\n\n    Practice 
 Consensual Dialogue\n    active listening – attention focused, maintain 
 appropriate eye contact, check your body language, take breaks only when 
 you need to\n    silence is okay – an unforced pace of dialogue is one 
 into which people can step-up safely\n    be sincere and consistent, 
 practicing respectful 
 honesty\n\n\n--------------------------------------\n\n\n\n 
 https://www.indybay.org/newsitems/2009/03/26/18583284.php
SUMMARY:Safe Open Space for Dialogue About the "Go Native" party controversy
LOCATION:Mosswood Park, Oakland (close to MacArthur BART, 1, 1R, 51, and 57 bus 
 lines)\nW. MacArthur and Broadway Ave.
URL:https://www.indybay.org/newsitems/2009/03/26/18583284.php
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